“The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Because all the do-gooders in the
world, whether they are doing good for others or they are doing it for themselves
are troublemakers. On the basis of “kindly let me help you or you will drown” said
the monkey putting a fish safely up a tree.”
-Alan Watts
THIS:
“Kindly let me help you or you will drown” is the underlying message I see in so much of the sales pitches of very well-intentioned people. (And well, it’s what’s being taught en masse)
We need to really look at what we believe about the people we are selling to… fundamentally.
Let us ask the question of ourselves… do we really feel like we know what’s best for another? That we have THE ANSWER for them?
Do we think they’re stupid? That they literally wouldn’t find their own way if they didn’t run into us? Do we believe we need to force upon them whats best for them because they won’t know it when they see it?
Or do we think every person inherently know what’s best for them? And that each of us is doing our best?
The answer to these questions marks the line in the sand of how we choose to sell our work, our cares…
No matter how transformational or needed we feel something is, if the nature of that transformation doesn’t show up in US while we sell it… it is not the transformation getting sold.
From my own experience, people could care less about the product or service in our hands (upfront)…. they begin to care, when we care. When we engage them with our caring, when we truly love what we are offering.
This isn’t about screaming in people’s faces how they need us and the knowledge or service we have… it looks more like running up to someone on the playground and saying, I would love to play with you… will you play with me?
Spot on. Yes, I want to play with you!